Men need to commit. What’s so scary about commitment? It’s a risk. Why aren’t men taking risks? They’re afraid of making the wrong decision if they make a commitment. That leaves us nowhere. Not making a decision is the wrong decision.
After working with college students over the past few years, I have noticed that the only risks young college men are willing to take are risks that (seemingly) don’t have any long-term impact. They risk not doing homework, drinking too much on Sunday nights, driving way too late and way too fast at night, etc. (some of these actually do have long-term impact, it’s just not obvious at the time, I guess).
Here are a few observations that have led me to write this post on commitment:
- Guys are dating women for longer than 4 or 5 years & not committing to marry them. This is fine if you start dating at 12, but when you’ve dated all through college and you’re still not married? You must be getting something you shouldn’t be getting…
- Procrastination is rampant, especially on deciding about what to do next in life. I just hosted a free seminar on transitioning into life after college, and NO men showed up! There were 13 women that listened and discussed about life after college. No men. Step it up, guys. Don’t deny that you’re graduating and moving on. Make a decision and do something. Anything is better than nothing.
- Any route that is taken in life seems to be the easiest. What about committing NOW to be the person you want to be in the future. A little work now can pay off later. Taking the easy route now will most likely lead to hardship later.
Thanks to Gorriz for the above photo