I have not taken the time to get to know myself; what I’m good at, what makes me unique, and what I might have to offer this world until recently. I think that I am currently evading a quarter-life crisis because I’m taking the time to get to know myself.
I think men could avoid going through a mid-life crisis (or quarter-life, or whatever, like ageism Creed in the picture) if they were to take the time to get to know themselves. Here are a few resources that have helped me recently:
- The One-Life Solution: Reclaim Your Personal Life While Achieving Greater Professional Success – a great book that talks about the balance of work and home life. Henry Cloud is a great man that seems to live a very balanced life – or at least writes about living one.
- The Enneagram personality system. Here’s a quick test to see what your ‘Enneagram type’ might be. This has helped me get to know some motivations behind why I do the things I do.
- Strengths Finder 2.0 – I found this to be very insightful regarding my work responsibilities / tasks. If you’d like to take this test, buy the book, Strengths Finder 2.0 – it includes a password for you to take the test. Also, if you work with a team and you all take the test, the strengths domains are extremely helpful. They help put your strengths in categories and may help your team function better as you understand your role (and others’) on the team.
- Being honest with myself; taking time to think about how I am really doing. I don’t naturally do this, but it really does help to just set aside time and think. Try going on a walk or something if you can’t just sit around for an hour and think.
- Talking with other men about where I’m at in life. Understand that other men are going through the same things, and maybe more. We need to open up and talk more about life (not just sports and drinking) with other men.
What have you found to be helpful in getting to know yourself?